How to Stop Complaining
We all catch ourselves once in awhile, complaining out loud to other people. Sometimes it's just to ourselves, and maybe even our pets. We can hear that little voice in our head telling us to stop, yet we're compelled to keep complaining. We may even tire of hearing our own voices, but we just keep going...
Next time you find yourself in this position, try these 3 simple steps:
1) Get Present
You may have heard this a lot, because it works. Getting present has to do with paying attention to what is going on right now, and more so who are you being? I like to think of it as an out of body experience. Play with me here: Imagine you are no longer able to move your body, and you are not able to talk. You are in a safe space, nobody is going to hurt you. All you can do is listen, and consider how you will respond. Pay attention to your body language, and feel any physical sensations running through your body. Now, shift the focus to what is right in front of you. Yes, it is easier said then done, and the only way to get there is through practice. There is vulnerability required to practice, as well as letting go of self judgement and negative self talk. One way to practice getting present is through meditation, even 10 minutes a day can make a huge impact. The only measure of meditation is if you are doing it, there is no right or wrong way, just practice. So next time you get distracted, focus on what is right in front of you in that given moment. Choose to respond after taking note of what is all around you. Play with this present moment awareness and see what happens. Then keep practicing.
2) Gain Perspective
We need to look beyond ourself to gain perspective. The old saying 'put yourself in someone else's shoes' applies here. Looking at the bigger picture can help to bring us appreciation, gratitude, and thanx. Journaling is helpful, although I prefer to jot down quick notes as they come to me throughout the day. More social people may prefer to give someone in their life recognition; perhaps with a thoughtful gift, a memorable experience, or simply a genuine thank-you. Sometimes simply reaching out to a trusted friend in a time of need and asking for their view on things is all it takes. The important thing here is to acknowledge where you are at and start to see what you want to put out into the world. Through acquiring other perspectives, you gain clarity on the direction you really want to go, and can more easily start implementing the steps to get there.
3) Get Creative
The life we lead paints a picture for all to see, allow yourself to be creative in how you chose to show up for others. Make your picture as vivid and bright as you want your life to be. Feel free to explore, take time to create, let your inner child out to play, and remember to say yes to the things that ring true for you. Being creative and enjoying all that life has to offer is what fuels us to keep going, to do more, and to make a difference in the world. Creativity fuels the heart and the mind, as one. Creativity provides new and innovative ways of thinking, it helps us see something beyond ourselves, tapping us into the greater human collective. Being creative helps us solve that which is weighing us down, freeing us from the mundane, the useless and showing us all that is possible. Being creative knows no bounds, it goes beyond thought, so choose the medium which feels right for you and just go for it!
Any time you catch yourself complaining, practice these 3 simple steps: Get Present, Gain Perspective, Get Creative. Not only will your complaints dissipate, negativity will float away. Freeing you up to take more positive actions, freeing you up to build the life you truly want.
Do you have some tips on how to stop complaining? Please share in the comments below.